Children don’t just do what they are asked to do, they model what you do.
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”― James Baldwin
Gone are the days when you can force children to become who you want, these days, children easily rebel and walk into a chosen path but you can avoid this fall out by demonstrating a great way to lead via using the right parenting skills.
Whether they are children, teenagers or young adults, let your life reflect the changes you want.
Here are 5 ways you can be a better model:
- Walk the talk and lead the change
Don’t just ask your children to do certain things while you do the opposite. Stay in charge by practicing what you preach. If you want them to be a lover of books, let them see you reading. Watch the right moves, music, and comedy and let them emulate you. Be a praying parent by walking the talk.
- Listen more
Beyond telling your children what to do, you should be a better listener. Listen to what they tell you and respond amicably. Listen to untold cues and pay attention to the changes in your children. Listening helps your children trust you more. When you notice changes in them, listening and observing can help you figure things out.
Your integrity should be seen as parents. If you came late or forgot to do something, an apology is a great way to earn your respect. If you reacted wrongly, apologize but remain firm in how you deal with issues.
You don’t have to help your children with everything. Learn to give them a portion of your work or chores they can help with. Especially, young adults, it is advisable to make them a part of the house formation. This will train them to handle things on their own.
I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway… let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.” ― C. JoyBell C.
- Be responsible
Let your life be a reflection of what you expect from them. Create time for yourself, care for yourself and live a responsible life. Your choice of friends, dressings, choices, and habits should be healthy and impactful for them. Your life is a mirror, reflect it well.
“To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.” ― Barbara Johnson
What difference can you make in your child from today?